Most women will agree, creating new life is a beautiful thing. Though reluctant at first, I even embraced and loved my pregnant form. I was amazed by how incredibly women are designed; how our bodies completely rearrange and works double time to sustain two life-forces in one being. Wow. Just wow.
Loving the aftermath once the baby makes his way into the world? Not as easy to embrace. I will admit that because of an active & plant-based pregnancy, I gained very little weight. But take my word for it, everyone has their own insecurities. No matter how healthy or fit you are during pregnancy, nothing is the same afterwards: everything is soft, stretch marks scatter every which way, you have a gigantic wound that nobody can see, your boobs are constantly engorged, and you deal with hormones and sleep deprivation that make you second guess your sanity.
Navigating through post-partum can be such a scary phase. One year since having the baby, I still don’t feel like this is the same body… because it’s not. One thing I learned to come to terms with is that it took time for my body to grow a baby so it would take time for my body to recover from it. Still, I yearned for instant gratification (who doesn’t?). Here are a few ways I learned to cope post-partum.
Invest in quality shape wear.
I refused to buy maternity clothes for the longest time. I hated the idea of investing in something I would only wear temporarily. Eventually, I realized that I could only wear sweatpants for so long and gave in to jeans with elastic waistbands. The same logic applied post-partum. I was intrigued by the idea of shape wear because let’s be honest, we all want the look of small waists again even if it’s just an illusion. But I’ve tried waist trainers in the past and they were incredibly uncomfortable and gave me stomach pains. It was only recently that I discovered the stā BODY suit and wish I had it all along. It has the look of a tank with the advantages of a bodysuit – without the uncomfortable confinement of traditional shape wear. It’s made from super soft fabric that helps give you a smooth appearance. It attaches to a thong bottom in the front which keeps it from riding up and prevents any embarrassing panty lines. I also love its versatility in the way it can be dressed up or down. Its staying power is my favorite feature because now that I am chasing around a toddler, I don’t have to worry about unwanted exposure. You can learn more about stā BODY here.
Added bonus: Stefanie, the genius behind the line was kind enough to extend a discount code! Use: SUPERWOMAN at checkout for 20% off at www.stabody.com.
It’s all about perspective.
It’s easy to get caught up in feeling down about your body. But staring at my baby is always a great reminder of how incredible my body is. When I look at the stretched out skin in my lower abdomen, I remember that it was to generously make room for baby boy. When I see stretch marks on the sides of my hips, I think of them as beauty marks instead tattooed by my growing child. When I get caught up with how exhausted I am, I think about how finite this time truly is. One day, sleep will come. And mom’s say it all the time – the days are long but the years are short.
Find a Mom Tribe
Remember that you are not alone. Sometimes you need a reminder of that. At any given moment, a mom somewhere is feeling all the feels you are feeling. So call your mom, call your girlfriend, or your sister. If you don’t have any of those, there’s a big mom community on Instagram that I am so thankful for. I moved across country at 6 months pregnant. It can be difficult to make new friends as an adult, never mind when you are not working and super pregnant or just had a baby. Through Instagram, I was able to find and connect with moms just like me.
So tell me, what are some of the ways that you’ve coped with your postpartum body?